Let’s Stop With the Slut Shaming

Whenever someone talks about tattoos in a ridiculously uneducated and unfair way, I normally do a great job in avoiding it. A lot of the time, I genuinely don’t care. Every once in a while, though, I can’t help but feel really annoyed, and sometimes even angry with how pathetic people can be. Today was one of those days, after I stumbled across a misogynist website written by five year olds called “Return of Kings”. I’m not even going to bother with a link, but you know you can Google it if you must. Normally, I don’t think much about anything you’d consider a ‘feminist view’, especially when the word ‘feminist’ is thrown around so much at the minute that no one even remembers what it means.

The website has an article written by a very lonely and bitter person called Matt Forney, called ‘5 Reasons why Girls with Tattoos and Piercings are Broken’. The whole thing is about how girls with tattoos and piercings are basically poison to all men. He makes it pretty clear why he thinks this in his first point- a girl with piercings broke his sad fragile little heart, so now he thinks that he owes it to everyone to put all girls who are like her down. Here are his reasons:

  • They’re sluts
  • They have no foresight
  • They’re selfish
  • They’re boring
  • They’re mentally ill

His ‘piercing addict’ girlfriend, of course, is his only example given. Everything else is just ‘bullshit idiots think about the world’. The reason, apparently, that all tattooed girls are sluts, is that they’re happy to get naked for ‘some fat dude with a dirty beard’ to tattoo them. Ladies and gents, here is a photo of the tattooer who does most of my tattoos:

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I see no beard; not an ounce of fat, either. I’m pretty sure she’s never seen me naked either. If this makes a girl a slut, does that mean that all men are also sluts, because they all get naked for doctors, or let them jam some fingers up their ass for a prostate exam? If a simmer is seen in public, does that also make them a slut for being seen without full clothing on? What about men who feel the need to take their tops off whenever it’s sunny? I’d imagine that the person who wrote this would be calling another group of women sluts if tattoos didn’t exist.

The other ‘point’ in this I have a big issue with is the idea that girls with tattoos are supposedly selfish. I’m trying to put into words how angry I am with this point, but I can’t manage it without every other word being ‘fuck’. Here’s the passage so you can sing-a-long those four letters with me:

The reasons girls get tattoos and piercings—“I’m doing it for ME!”—are indicative of narcissism and mild psychopathy. Girls get tattoos for the same reasons they cut their hair short: a desperate attempt to assert how unique and special they are. A girl who willfully disfigures herself like this will never attempt to please you or do anything nice for you. She won’t care for you when you’re sick, will refuse to sleep with you for completely arbitrary reasons, and will generally be a moody, unlikable cunt.

I am too angry to get these points across properly:

  • At no point does anyone care about your opinion when they’re getting a tattoo
  • Girls have just as much right as men to get a tattoo or piercing for themselves and no one else
  • Anyone with a tattoo will tell you they’re far from unique anymore
  • You don’t know what the word ‘disfigure’ means
  • Women are not slaves who are there to please you and do nice things for you
  • How come all these girls are sluts if they refuse to sleep with you? Surely we’re either one or the other, dumb shit.
  • No one is ever obliged to sleep with you. If a girl doesn’t want to, this doesn’t make her a cunt. It makes you a cunt, if anything.
  • In case you didn’t see that last point: you are a cunt.

Honestly, this bullshit needs to stop. The way that these pathetic little boys think is downright scary at times- these animals genuinely think that women are just creatures for them to control, and that none of us should even be allowed to have tattoos or express ourselves in any way. The idea that girls who have tattoos are sluts is actually an idea I’ve had to deal with, and I can assure you it’s far from nice when you’re on a night out and someone thinks your tattoos are an invitation to try to put their hands down your top. It’s also not nice having anyone assume that you’re some crazy bitch because you’re ‘disfiguring’ yourself, when a man can do the same and be perceived as a badass. It’s not even great being asked time and time again what I’ll look like in a wedding dress, as if my whole life is all about getting married or having a baby or whatever else I’m supposed to do before believing I can have my own life.

Guys who get tattooed rarely get as much of this shit as girls do. This isn’t fair. No one should be made to feel like dirt just because they’re doing something that feels like second nature to them. There is nothing wrong with being a female with a tattoo, but there is something wrong with believing those girls owe you anything or should aim to please you. This should be obvious- if it isn’t, please go back to school.

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One Response to “Let’s Stop With the Slut Shaming”
  1. Lukraakvars says:

    Thats ridiculous! Sigh! So narrow minded!

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